I was trying to make the point that we need to treat other people and their ideas with the same respect that we want for ourselves.

But by all means, stay away from people who show the type of disregard and disrespect that could bring harm to you or others. For example, if they do dangerous drugs or plan to break the law in some way and try to persuade you to join them in those activities.

And remember that whatever a person will do to others, they will do to anybody, including you– whether it is hurtful gossip, serious lying, stealing, cheating, or hitting. I can''t think of any good reason to stay around people who can and will likely hurt us or our loved ones like that.

These are some of the lessons I have learned. I hope some of it helps you.

The thing about beliefs, principles and values is that not everybody has the same ones. Every person sees the world a little differently–and at times, a lot differently–than anyone else.

Everyone is different, so no person on earth is going to think exactly like you. But that does not make them wrong. And it does not make you wrong. It just makes you all human.

If you want to keep friends, you must be flexible in your attitude. Recognize that everybody has a right and responsibility to think for themselves. You can “agree to disagree” about some things, such as politics, for example. But recognize that not every thing in life is completely right or completely wrong; But the point is, respect the fact that

Better yet, just accept people for who they are. After all, you want them to accept you for who you are, don't you? 

Treat other people the way you want them to treat you. That is the most important principle of all. Some people call it the Golden Rule.

If someone hurts your feelings without meaning to (by not following the Golden Rule, for example), recognize that they may have simply made a mistake, and they may deserve your forgiveness. After all, wouldn't you want a friend you value to forgive you if you accidentally hurt them?

All of us are right about some things and wrong about others. And many things in life have no clear right or wrong. Life is complicated. Circumstances, ideas, actions cannot always be judged as good or bad,  black or white, or right or wrong. There are a lot of gray areas in life. That goes for beliefs, principles and values as well as everything else. Including people.

You are intelligent, so read books about such things as how to have good relationships, how to get along with people, how to work with people, how to overcome difficult childhoods, etc. You may be surprised to learn that millions of us had difficult childhoods and had to raise ourselves, so to speak, to grow into mature, compassionate, understanding adults. We read related books, magazines and online articles; got counseling; took academic or religious classes; talked with close friends; and, believe me, thought just as much as you do.

Also, people who can keep one, two, or three really good friends for years and years are very, very fortunate. All of us have friends who come and go. It's normal. But if you really care about a friend, give them the same amount of room to grow that you need for yourself.

Also remember that you can have a certain belief or opinion today and change your mind about it tomorrow. That often happens as we learn. So don't be rigid in your thinking and judging. Be more flexible. Be open to new ideas. Be open to change. Give yourself and others a break. You deserve it.

And by the way, why not play snooker as a hobby? Just have fun with it. Where career is concerned, you will have the best chance of long-term success and growth if you work at something that you would want to do even if nobody paid you. (But certainly find a way to get paid for it, of course!)

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Letting go is a process, I hope you'll be patient with yourself. Sometimes it's okay not to belong anywhere if you aren't ready, take smaller steps towards it so it doesn't feel overwhelming.

Thanks for sharing.

Be well

Letting go is a process, I hope you'll be patient with yourself. Sometimes it's okay not to belong anywhere if you aren't ready, take smaller steps towards it so it doesn't feel overwhelming.

Thanks for sharing.

Be well

I often stumble over my words when I’m nervous, but I’ve also seriously stuttered on a few occasions (maybe 3?) in my life. Usually when I feel as though the person I’m talking to is judging me based on my background. I know of a guy who one day woke up and couldn’t walk. There was nothing physically wrong with him, but he just couldn’t move his legs. (He recovered eventually once he was emotionally healed.) So I can see how your experiences would have caused you to stutter.

>The teacher waited for the whole class hour for me to say the answer.

That is just plain mean. Cruel. That is emotional abuse. That is in no way a judgment of your worth. It did not happen because there is something wrong with you. That happened because there was something very wrong with the teacher’s heart. I just had to spell that out. You don’t need to hate the teacher, but you do need to be very clear in your heart that it does not in anyway reflect on who you are. Teachers have great authority over students (more than we realize) and it is a teacher’s responsibility to be very careful not to abuse it like that.

As for the desire to move on…I wonder what that is. I feel as though something deep inside me is looking for something more too. Something deep. And I do find that friendships and other relationships require a lot of hard work. A lot of heart to heart commitment…(This last paragraph might not make sense…I’m just thinking out loud.)